The Biggest Challenge - Being Yourself

What is that one thing which is most important for everyone? What is that important thing which always makes you proud to live? Why is it so important for each one of us? Why is it so difficult to get it?

Let’s see how the above can be understood by each one of us. It’s been quite a long life to experience this clear fact of life. Since our childhood we are always asked to behave, to live, to dress, to talk, to respond, to decide among the choices, to find our directions in a certain way.

We are taught and then expected to be learning the social, cultural and emotional ways to handle our life. We are supposed to know the ways to handle those different relations of being a son, a father, a mother, an uncle, a brother, a sister, a teacher, a student, a friend, etc.

Upon that, if we are working, we are supposed to handle additional relationships of being a boss or an employee or a subordinate or a representative of an organization. Every step is so well defined by the whole environment that there is very little scope for an individual to really do something different. We are always expected to follow the herd or follow the norms or make a move along with others so much so that the very idea of being unique dies within us one day.

The uniqueness just remains in those immaterial things which don’t bring anything at all, of the persona that we are on this earth. Actually speaking, in a day an individual has to handle not less than a fifty odd expectations. These expectations need to be handled in a way world wants you to handle. A Person is forced to think on the lines of how to meet all these expectations properly. By the time he has finished the work related expectations, he faces the family expectations, and then the friends, etc.

All these expectations leave a huge gap of all those things which you expect from yourself, your dreams, your aspirations, and self development. For those who give some time to that aspect are literally having no time to even think whether they are themselves or are they just playing roles for the whole life. Very rarely do we really think, “what is that “I want to be?”

If I want to live in a particular way which is in my heart when will I follow it and when will I really be able to live my life the way I want to live and be myself. “Being yourself” is not only the biggest challenge but also a craving which remains untouched in those who just give away their lives knowing nothing about it. They are unaware that their music is still unsung.

They are ignorant that if they have to live only one life then when will they start to live it their way? If their way is a little different than this world’s way, why do they need to give justifications on that? Why is it that, a different way is not respected the same as the fact that they are all unique beings and all of us can think differently about so many things?

Even if a person starts to be himself or herself, he or she is given suggestions to be back on the line. The fact that we all are always busy in showing the lines to others has actually taken away the feeling of accepting people as they are. And because of that we are also not getting the chance of being our own self. It needs more effort to be your own self than to follow the herd. At the end of the day people get tired and lose their drive to be themselves just because this challenge needs a lot of effort.

If you are wondering what is “Being your self”

• It is nothing but respecting and being what you feel.

• It’s being in silence when you don’t want to talk due to compulsions of maintaining relations.

• It’s speaking what you feel in totality without being bothered of expectations of what people will think or judge.

• It’s about not being pressurized to keep doing something you don’t feel like doing.

• It’s like listening to those you feel like listening and ignore others including irritant relatives.

• It’s those small things you want to accomplish every day for being happy regardless of the fact that you have priorities to handle moods of others all along to be at peace.

• It’s about working on your dreams and goals as an individual rather than just thinking that you have other responsibilities and your dreams are not important.

This list is never ending and we can define as long as we live. But the fact remains that this challenge of being one’s own self is truly a big challenge but it might as well be vital to understand that though it’s tough it’s still worth to live the life being your own self. Because while we are leaving this world one thing should make us smile that we lived the treasure called “Life” the way we wanted to live.

A smile that could make your life a journey worth the existence. The easiest way to be yourself is to allow and accept others to be themselves and nag less about them to be as per your expectations. By paving their way we can make our way effortless.

This journey called life is for us to live it “the unique way” i.e. “our way” as we are all Unique. This challenge can be welcomed best by being excited to live it the way we want to live by giving others that space of letting them be what they are/want to be. Though it’s tough this challenge is still worth it to explore and accomplish and one thought which can make it easy to face this is- “We all need that space to be our self and we can create that space by giving it to others first.”

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